Before I realized the only chance I had of blogging regularly was by being super lazy and just talking about Skyrim all the time, I had a different column for each day of the week. Mondays were Real Talk, which was my cool name for just rambling about my life. You know, like how blogs were originally envisioned.
The funny thing is, it’s not that different from my Ridiculously Slow Let’s Play Posts: instead of talking about the weird thoughts and ideas I have while gaming, I talk about the weird thoughts and ideas I have while living in the real world. The thoughts and ideas are pretty identical; it’s just the delivery system that varies.
Of course, that’s by design. In addition to letting me be super lazy, replacing all seven columns with just one about Skyrim doesn’t really change the ideas I’m communicating here. I just had seven different ways of communicating the same core theme. We’ll dig deeper into that as I reintroduce the columns. For now, keep in mind that Real Talk and the Ridiculously Slow Let’s Play are parallel: learning to excel in a game is the same as learning to excel in life, and you can gain a lot of insight about life and about yourself by playing a game.
23 and Me
I turned twenty-three a handful of days ago. Though I’ve never been one for big parties on my birthday, I love birthdays all the same, for the same reason I love New Year’s: each year of my life has been the best year of my life so far. I get to double dip on that possibility: In January I get to reflect on how “2017 was so great, and it’s almost certain 2018 will be even better!” Then in March: “my 22nd year was so great, and it’s almost certain my 23rd will be even better!”
Part of this is taking time to be grateful for how lucky I am. Part is reaffirming how hard I need to work in the year to come if I want to keep the streak going. The final part is recognizing that it’s always worked out so far, so while reflecting on the past and planning for the future each have their place, I should focus most of my time on just enjoying the moment. On New Year’s I think about bigger defining events, like “I moved to Mexico last year” or “I want to start a new job this year”. On my birthday I think on a more personal scale: “I’m a lot less anxious today than I was last year” or “I want to practice being more patient this year”.
On the day of my birthday I got to go to an hacienda in Hidalgo with my girlfriend’s family, which was nice. The other day we had my “celebration”, throwing all our responsibilities and good sense aside for a day and playing a marathon session of World of Warcraft, just the two of us. I normally advocate moderation and balance, but now that I’ve achieved some amount of balance, the reward is that I can sometimes do something ridiculous like this without any negative impact on my workload, health, and so on. If you’re disciplined the rest of the time, you can go all-out with your celebrations.
New Job Who Dis
The other big development in my life is that, as of today, I’m working a new job. I’m still ghostwriting and still writing my own book, but now in addition I’m working in social media marketing. In other words, getting paid to like and comment on photos on instagram (using a business’s account). I’m saving for an apartment so it’s nice to have the extra cash, but it still might seem like a weird move: I’m already doing my dream job of writing, so why take another job?
Mainly, it’s a way to build skills that could be useful later. I never really got into social media, and while that’s a blessing in many ways, it does have its uses. When I’m ready to publish my own novel, having a social media presence would be really helpful. If you don’t have your dream job yet, you can still think abut how the work you’re doing now (or the work you could be doing now) will ultimately get you closer to your dream.
Desdenada Is….Ridiculously Slow
As promised, I present to you the first Desdenada Core Principle:
This is of course the principle behind the Ridiculously Slow Let’s Play. By practicing slowing down in game, where the stakes are much lower, I can get better at slowing down in life.
Speed is somewhat of a virtue in modern culture, at least in North American countries. There are cases where you need to get things done quickly, but speed for the sake of speed is becoming a problem. We feel pressure to rush around and be busy because that’s what we think success looks like, so we run in circles without a clear destination in mind.
Ironically, the most successful people are never busy. Rather, they have full schedules, but they never say, “I want to X but I’m too busy.” If you can force yourself to slow down, you’ll probably find you don’t have time for everything you do now…and be forced to reevaluate what you really need to do, and what you really want to do.
More to the point, you’ll actually experience and enjoy each thing you do.